Friday, October 28, 2011

Goodbye Grief, Find Joy Again


I'm bursting with excitement, energy, and a new reason to write.  For months I could only blog as my energy or desire to do other things had left me, maybe due to my mom's illness, and then her death. Many things happened this year. I felt many things were taken from me and that I had regressed about ten years in my past, although I pretended otherwise.

My partner spoke to me yesterday.  He said I have much going for me even if everything else was taken away, and I wanted to hear what was included in the "much."  He reminded me about one of my biggest assets—my ability to write.  He said no one can take away my power to write and that I should continue to write.  He said I should write a commitment to myself that I’ll continue to write and complete my book. I went to the gym and worked on my manuscript when I returned home. My partner's words gave me confidence, affirmation to believe in myself even when my reality seemed to rest in a discombobulated state.

Goodbye grief, hello to writing, to the completion of my manuscript.
Update
I completed my manuascript - the book now titled Day Laughs Night Cries: Fifteen
To Others
When life seems unbearble, don't quit. The good times will return. You'll find joy again. Yes. You Will.

49 comments:

  1. Wow. Good for you. You have an amazing partner. :)

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  2. I am happy for you. Sometimes writing is what gets us through the hard times. Hurray for your partner! I'm glad he is such an encouragement to you!

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  3. Sometimes we can forget that our gift is not just a gift for others - but ourselves as well. Whenever I find myself not able to bounce out of my down-ness, I can look to see that I have not been writing consistently. Thanks, this is just what I needed.

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  4. Great! I'm so happy you found Elisa. She's a gem.

    Love,
    Lola

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  5. That's just lovely! Hold onto that guy! Glad to hear you're reaffirming some constructive things in your life. :)

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  6. You are an inspiration and I'm happy you plan to get back to writing. So nice to have a partner to provide support & encouragement.

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  7. Wise and handsome? I think he's a keeper! :)

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  8. I've always felt like writing is kinda like therapy for me. So sorry to hear you've had a hard time and glad to hear you're looking up. Keep writing! :)

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  9. wow! so happy to read this! such an excellent title:)
    u r right peaches,elisa is a wonderful blogger..
    and beautiful picture:):):) i have saved it in my PC:)

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  10. I am so glad for the positive people in your life to inspire you to do what you love best! Writing your inner most thoughts and desires is a lovely way to share and encourage not only others, but yourself, too.

    Blessings and hugs!
    Denise

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  11. Your partner sounds amazing! Having a great support system makes all the difference. Good luck and keep writing!

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  12. I am excited for you. This is awesome : ))) TY for stopping in and signing up for Project Pink again.

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  13. Here, Here! :) May you continue to find peace, and continue to work toward your goals!

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  14. hey yes bid your farewell to grief and yes focus on writing..would love to read your book someday :D

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  15. Your partner is wise and obviously loving. Your grief, your sense of being in an emotioal swamp, of feeling worthless -- all of these things will make you a better writer. Pain, rejection, dejection, doubt -- these are all coins all of us who live must pay for the next step forward.

    Storms are not meant to knock us to our knees -- though sometimes it feels like that.

    Storms exist to teach us the strength to stand tall in them, to find the next step forward is possible, bringing us closer to becoming the person who can lend strength to others and understand when they cry out in pain.

    May each day bring you closer to some small measure of peace, Roland

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  16. I know how hard it sometimes is for us to see how amazing we really are. But we are. Thank God for our partners, friends and blogs that remind us that, right?

    I am happy t have your real you back :)

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  17. Celebrating with you. Writing is an awesome, cathartic experience. I'm sure your mom would be proud of your determination.

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  18. Yay!!! Good for you, I for one cannot wait to read your book. I know you can do it, that is why am always reading your blog! You are blessed to have a wonderful support in your hubby and I am sure you will blossom in spite of what you went through. To your success!

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  19. There is so much that people, complete strangers, give to others in this universe. Please know that I'm grateful that all of you have taken the time to visit and to comment with all your wisdom and all your caring words. You‘ve uplifted me even more.

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  20. good for you!! this is awesome!!
    i LOVE your writing style.
    gorgeous!

    ...and thanks so much for following CUT AND DRY. following back your lovely blog!

    hope you're having a great weekend!
    betty

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  21. I'm glad you found you writing groove again. In fact, writing might be one of the most therapeutic things you can do now.

    God Bless!

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  22. love your post! thanks for sharing...loves soraya

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  23. Just saying hello and checking on you to make sure you are alright. My prayers are with you and all the best with your writing.
    God bless!

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  24. Hello,

    I am dropping by each one of my fellow bloggers sites, that are currently following me and thanking them for their support. So thank you and I hope you have a fantastic weekend!

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  25. Wow--You are so sweet.
    This absolutely made my day! Thank you :0)

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  26. You've been through a lot and one of your commenters said something about pain making better writers. I'm glad you're writing again and hope you're allowing yourself to grieve also. ((hugs)) Thanks for stopping by and following my blog.

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  27. Elisa is my best friend in the world and if anyone can make you smile it is that lady! She is a ray of sunshine.
    What your partner said is true although I would add that you have much more than writing on your side. You are obviously intelligent and beautiful. Never give up on yourself.. Find 10 positive things about you or your life every day and focus on them. You can do this! I'm very sorry about your lose and health. I can sympathies on the health.

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  28. Thank you for following, and as you'll see, I've done the same. Not only that, but, and I hope you don't mind, I liked your caption for followers so much I've put it on my own blog! Beyond that, good luck with completion of your manuscript. Life throws a lot of curves, doesn't it, and isn't it wonderful to have people like your partner who are there to lift us up and out!

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  29. If you have a gift it's a sin not to use it. Keep bloggin' too.
    +followed

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  30. Peaches, sorry to hear about your mother, and I thank you for stopping by one of my posts. Our strength can often be found amidst the pain, and as you rise up out of the ashes you will see the 'muchness' is Gods grace on your life, he will never give you more than you can handle someone somewhere around the world will read the words that will spring forth from your mouth. He has given you the gift of expression and one day when the pain eases up you will write about your journey and those words will bring healing and comfort to someone else. Stay blessed, so glad you took the step, wonderful things will be coming your way! Have a blessed weekend, Amandaxx

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  31. Hi Peaches,

    Writing is such a wonderful tool for helping people get through difficult times in their lives (as I'm sure you know). And sometimes, in difficult times, you will find inspiration that takes your writing to a new level. I am glad you will begin writing again! Cheers to that!

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  32. i'm sorry to hear the death. more power to you. anyway welcome back. i'm a new comer here. looking forward more from you :)

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  33. I love Elisa! Although I've never met her in person, I feel as though I have known her for years. Shes' an excellent writer and quite encouraging, too!

    I'm sorry to hear about your mother. Grieving is a process, and it sounds like you're coming out of it now! So, best of of luck on completing your manuscript. I'm now following you, so I get to keep up with your progress! Yay!

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  34. Thanks for swinging over woman! Sorry I've been an absentee lately. I still stick to my original comment on this post! Keep writing girl!

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  35. Good for you! It's awesome that he is so supportive! Thanks for following my blog, I'm following yours now!!

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  36. I'm sorry to hear about your mum. I'm glad to hear you have found happiness once again in writing. Thank you for following my blog. Now following yours and will definitely be back. :)

    All the best Peaches! :)

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  37. I know what you're saying. We sometimes have a real battle to fight to keep us on track following our dreams and life pursuits. It's good to have support.

    My word verification: deadismi--I refuse to accept that as my life verification...yet.


    Lee
    Journaling Woman at my memoir blog
    starting Saturday 12/17/2011
    Wrote By Rote

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  38. Hi Peaches!

    So nice to hear from you on New Prairie Woman, thank you for leaving such a sweet message about purchasing my book, Wherever The Wind Will Blow It, so you're unable to red my snippet on NPW! Peaches, that was so cute! You're very very kind and sweet. Thank you! I know you're a big fan of NPW so setting it aside to read WIND is such a compliment and I sincerely appreciate that.

    Peaches, I too have health issues, which you will discover many of them in WIND and also learn about my newest issues in later chapters of NPW. Health issues and dealing with the passing of loved ones are subjects we all know are lurking but aren't really ever prepared for. Writing can lift us up and out of the funk that keeps us down in the dregs and somewhat stagnant in our creative lives. I'm so pleased to hear that you have lifted yourself up because of your partner's belief in you and his inspiration. This is the kick in the butt you needed. I look forward to reading much more from you and can't wait to read your finished book! When it's ready for print I'll surly purchase it!

    You are a dear and loyal writing friend, a friend of the gift of words and I'm sending you my soul's deepest friendship with greetings and best wishes for a beautiful Christmas (or which ever holiday you celebrate!) and a fulfilling artistic New Year! Keep writing!

    With love,
    Susie Rosso Wolf

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  39. Hey, Peaches,

    Hope you're still writing up a storm. All the best of the season to you and yours.

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  40. Good for you. It's all about how you get up when life knocks you flat. I think you're getting up just fine :)

    Thanks for commenting on my blog today.

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  41. Glad to see people finding the bright side of life...groovy blog:)

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  42. Hehehe I'm a little late to the party, but I thought I'd comment anyway.

    I'm glad to know that you're picking up your writing again. I find that once I have the strength to take it up again, I can fight through my feelings because I get to air them in a healthy way. If I don't, they fester until I lose any perspective.

    I hope you're still writing and that you are feeling better. I wish you a very Blessed Christmas and a much improved New Year.

    Misha :-)

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  43. I agree that writing can get you through the tough times. Glad to hear you have returned to it. So sorry to learn of your loss.

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  44. I am still clinging to my grief. Or maybe it is still clinging to me. I hope it lifts soon. I have not been blogging as even that is a chore. Thanks for this post, it gives me hope.

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  45. Your partner is awesome! I'm so sorry about your health. I hope you get better soon. *hugs*

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  46. I feel wonderful to have you all post such beautiful, caring words. Thanks a million times.

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